Many women and mothers have reached the state of depletion at one point or another.
Somewhere along care-giving, child-birthing, role-modeling, hat-switching, career-seeking, and daily juggling, we all run the risk of feeling depleted.
The realization may occur to you at a very mundane moment, while doing a mundane chore; You may be wiping the counter for the millionth time and feel as if there is not a drop of energy left in you to give.
You may be experiencing what I have come to call the three D’s:
Depleted. Deflated. Drained.
Julia Cameron once wrote:
“Any extended period of work draws heavily on our artistic well. Overtapping the well, like overfishing the pond, leaves us with diminished resources.”
Are you over-tapped? Her words are easy to relate to if you have ever felt this state in your body at any stage of your life. I was fortunate enough to study the concept and importance of Self-Care as part of my graduate training.
Since then, I have carefully woven it into my life in different ways and modified to fit the various mothering stages.
I believe in it. I practice it. I teach it.
And yet I know, that many women learn to resist it. Postpone it. Push it for ‘some day’. It often goes to the bottom of the list and stays there for a while.
In the Artist’s Way, Julia argues that Self-Care is crucial for our art. Whatever your “art” is. Think along the art of parenting, mothering, teaching, nursing… Or just being. She adds:
“As artists, we must learn to be self-nourishing. We must become alert enough to consciously replenish our creative resources as we draw on them – to restock the trout pond, so to speak. I call this process filling the well.”
Over the years I have come to adopt the metaphor of filling the well whenever teaching self-care.
Filling the Well becomes not a “selfish” issue but rather a sustainability issue.
What fills your well?
What do you do to replenish?
How do you squelch the thirst for self-care?
Closing words: (yes, by Julia Cameron)
“In filling the well, think magic. Think delight. Think fun. Do not think duty. Do not do what you should do…. Do what intrigues you, explore what interests you; think mystery, not mastery.”